Mutuality does not require symmetry. One person may love wearing latex while the other enjoys the look, prefers ordinary clothing or wants no direct involvement. The relationship question is whether those preferences can be held honestly and kindly.
Describe the difference accurately
Ask whether the non-wearing partner dislikes the material, feels physically uncomfortable, worries about attention, lacks interest or simply prefers another style. Those are different issues and should not be collapsed into rejection of the wearer.
The wearer should also explain whether dressing is personal style, erotic expression, event participation or something they hope to share. Precision reduces the temptation to argue with an imagined position.
Build only from genuine overlap
Possible shared ground might be choosing colours, accompanying each other to a fashion event, helping with a zip when invited or simply offering a sincere compliment. None of those steps must lead to wearing.
Do not present a purchase as a surprise that must be tried. Money spent and excitement created do not override a boundary.
Let each person retain a style
A coordinated couple can repeat colour, hardware or form while only one person wears latex. The other might choose tailoring, leather, denim or an ordinary evening look. Visual connection does not need identical material.
At home, the same principle applies: enthusiasm can be expressed through attention and conversation without turning one partner into a costume.
Recognise incompatible needs
If wearing together is essential for one person and firmly unwanted by the other, no styling trick solves the difference. Name it without blame and decide whether independent expression, limited overlap or a different relationship arrangement would genuinely satisfy both people.
Compromise is successful only when neither partner is waiting for the other to change.